9 Things To Remember When Moving On Seems Impossible

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Tom McCaghertyTom McCagherty

1. Acceptance is always better than denial.

Denial’s going to take you nowhere. The first step in every problem whether complicated, tricky, or not: ACCEPT IT. There’s no other way to face your problem if you’re undyingly trying to convince yourself that he will come back, that she will call you at the wee hours of the night, that he will suddenly appear at you front door, or unswervingly sugarcoating the situation by making yourself accept the myth that you were not really hurt. I know it hurts to swallow the whole damn pill. But wounds will hurt more and will persist longer if you tend to them with a band-aid rather than in letting in open air to help them heal themselves.

2. Cry it out.

Cry. If somebody told you that swallowing in the tears, standing straight, and tilting your chin makes you strong against the…

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This Is Moving On

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It’s not a one-step solution, it’s forgetting and investing time in other people, it’s realising that you didn’t think about them yesterday and you were happy. It’s like they’re flitting around your head in circles and you becoming immune to it, but every now and then they’ll hit the sides of your skull. That’s when you’re forced to think of them. That’s when you leave reality and you’re propelled back into the past. But you won’t think of scenes and situations. You’ll think of how their skin looked in the dim light and how their profile looked before glancing at you. Their smile will fill your vision and stay there for the rest of the day. You live your day through their joy in that moment. The moment when you made them happy. This will happen a lot; them flitting back and forth through your thoughts. Kicking them out is…

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In The End, It’s You Versus Yourself

For the over-thinker

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Tiago C. LimaTiago C. Lima

Let it go.

Let it go. You won’t change the outcome. You won’t make sense of the situation. And you won’t heal through repeated contemplation. In fact, you’ll merely make it worse.

I know you can feel it. You can feel it rising — you can see that wave begin to crest, that white cap beginning to form. You know it’s coming, and you know it’s going to crash. It’s going to crash right over you and take you under. It’s going to leave you gasping for air. The anticipation takes the bulk of the time, the formation of that wave deep out at sea. And it travels, quickly and haphazardly through the waters, sweeping and destructing whatever may be in its path. That wave is dangerous. And it’s coming for you.

Let it go. Rise to the top of that water. Breathe. In. Out. Fill your lungs…

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